Have you ever been in a situation where something wasn’t your fault and/or it didn’t warrant an apology but you still found yourself saying “sorry” anyway?
I have, many a times… it’s become a reflex response.
Someone could step on your toes and you’ll unconsciously apologise. What kind of backwards thinking is that? It’s simply the fear of offending others, this is a massive factor. And with human beings never being as sensitive as they are in 2018. You can understand why.
I’ll give you another scenario:
Most people, if not everyone has been through this. You’re walking towards an individual on the street, you don’t want to collide with the person so you attempt to make way for them by stepping to the side.
But they were thinking the exact thing and do the same, putting you in each others way again. This happens a few more times and before you know it, you have a dancing partner.
Now, in this particular situation. Occasionally accompanied by a brief showing of the “pearly whites”. What is said by both parties?
Why though? Neither of us are at fault, it was just one of those things that happen.
Don’t get me wrong, It’s very important to be polite and to be ready to provide a sincere apology if we are in the wrong. However, that’s not to say we should disregard ourselves in the process.
“Sorry, may I get through”
“Sorry to keep you waiting”
The phrases above, wouldn’t they sound better with a “thank you, rather than a sorry?
“May I get through… thank you”
“Thank you for waiting”
Notice how the dynamic changes when the “sorry” is replaced by a “thank you”. You’re saying the same thing but it feels different. You’re giving off vibes of appreciation instead of guilt/resentment. Which is a whole lot better in my book.
If you’re one of those people that find themselves saying sorry a lot, replace your sorry with a thank you and thank me later.
And where saying “thank you” won’t make sense, actively think of another way to stay polite but at the same thing still avoiding the word “sorry”.
In conclusion, if you’re not at fault then you have no business saying sorry.
Thanks for coming to my TedTalk.